The Lies Behind Depression

Depression can be a relentless liar, pushing individuals to tell falsehoods due to their fear of burdening loved ones and their struggle to convey their true feelings. One common lie is the declaration of being "fine." This facade shields others from concern and is often prompted by the belief that people ask out of politeness rather than genuine interest. 

Another deception is the promise of doing things "later." Depression saps motivation, making everyday tasks seem impossible. Procrastination becomes a coping mechanism for the guilt of not accomplishing basic activities. 

"I'm just tired" is an easier lie than admitting to something being wrong. It avoids the discomfort of delving into emotions and revealing their struggles to others. 

Saying "I'm okay" conceals inner turmoil to avoid troubling those around them. It simplifies conversations and spares them from discussing their mental health. 

"I think I'm coming down with a cold" is a socially accepted lie that conceals terrible mental health days, preventing others from worrying when plans are cancelled. 

To avoid social situations when depression hinders leaving the house, some resort to excuses like "Sorry, I can't hang out. I'm busy." These lies shield others from dealing with their struggles. 

Lastly, claiming "I just need to be alone for a little while" masks feelings of inadequacy and the fear of burdening loved ones despite a deep craving for connection and support. 

Unfortunately, there are many more. 

Being more honest with friends and family while struggling with depression is challenging but crucial. It requires understanding and empathy from both sides. Encouraging open communication, seeking professional help, and building a support network can help individuals break free from depression's lies and find the understanding and care they need. 

Please find out more at one of our fortnightly Depression and Hope Support Groups.

Written by Rob Hoile, Tanilba Bay Grup Facilitator .